What is the most challenging life event you’ve had to face? When 785 business leaders were asked that question in a recent poll conducted by Development Dimensions International, almost one in five managers ranked getting a promotion at the top of the list. When I first read this, I was shocked until I recalled my own feelings of inadequacy when I was first promoted to management many, many moons ago. Most companies do little to prepare or support new leaders. The same lack of support is also felt by existing leaders as they climb up the corporate ladder. It’s like being thrown into the deep end of the pool; you’ll either sink or swim. If you are in this position, what should you do?

First, realize that whatever you are feeling - stress, guilt, inadequacy, fear - is probably quite normal. Any type of change puts us back at the bottom of the learning curve. So, take a deep breath, recognize that you are just in change mode, and stop being so hard on yourself.

Second, do a little bit of positive self talk. Obviously, whoever approved your promotion must have felt that you could do the job. Why shouldn’t you feel the same way? If you need more reassurance, meet with your new manager to discuss his or her expectations. Your manager’s expectations are probably more realistic than you imagine.

Lastly, don’t be afraid to admit that you need help. Easier said than done, right? Actually, there are many avenues to explore in getting the help and guidance you need. One possibility is finding a mentor in another department of your company or perhaps in a different company within the same industry. Another possibility is finding and taking some leadership classes. Once you start looking, you’ll be surprised at the wealth of training options that exist both within and outside of your own company. You can also read books on leadership. Ask leaders you admire what books they recommend. And, consider working with a leadership coach. A coach can help you identify skill gaps, create action plans for closing those gaps, and hold you accountable for making progress.

If you are curious about what other ‘most challenging’ life events were reported by the surveyed leaders, here are the survey results.

• 19% - Promotion
• 15% - Bereavement
• 11% - Divorce
• 10% - Moving
• 9% - Managing teenage children