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Leaders, Let’s Talk

I attendedEngagement a conference a few weeks ago that was sponsored by the Atlanta chapter of the Society of Human Resource Management (SHRM). In one day, I heard the same message in four different sessions by speakers who are HR practitioners. The message was that managers need to spend time really communicating on a regular basis with their direct reports about how they are performing at work. The fact that I heard this message repeatedly in session after session at an HR conference suggests that managers are NOT having meaningful two-way conversations with their direct reports about their job performance. The primary reason for this deficit is going to sound familiar to you: “I don’t have the time.” I might be wrong, but the following findings by the Gallup organization might influence some managers to take the time to communicate with their employees on a more consistent and frequent basis.

  • Managers account for up to 70% of the variance in employee engagement. According to a Gallup study of 7,272 U.S. adults showed that one in two had left their job to get away from their manager to improve their overall life at some point in their career. Yikes!
  • Consistent and meaningful communication is connected to higher engagement. Employees whose managers hold regular meetings with them are almost three times as likely to be engaged as employees whose managers do not hold regular meetings with them. Employees value communication from their manager not just about their roles and responsibilities, but also about what happens in their lives outside of work.

I consider myself lucky that I “grew up” as a manager in a large corporation that invested heavily in leadership development training because the company had a ‘promote from within’ policy. Among the many things I learned as a leader was the importance of getting to know my direct reports as unique individuals with strengths to be leveraged and potential to be nurtured.

As an executive coach, I challenge my clients to conduct weekly or biweekly one-on-one meetings with all their direct reports and to spend time learning about their direct reports’ goals, challenges, and aspirations – at work and outside of work. If you are a leader, I challenge you to do the same.

Impatience

I’ve been thinking quite a bit about impatience. I see it all around me (as well as within me at times). For me, impatience is not a feel-good place. When I’m impatient, I’m also anxious. I feel my pulse quicken and my breath becomes more shallow. When I look deeper, I may find another emotion like frustration, worry, anger, or fear.

When are you most impatient?

For many people, impatience happens when they are focused on some future event. For example, you want to get somewhere in your car, and you are slowed down by heavy traffic. You curse other drivers for being in your way.

It occurs to me that impatience cannot co-exist with presence. When we are truly present, we aren’t rehashing the past or contemplating the future. When we are present, we accept what is happening. We don’t judge it; we don’t try to escape it or rush through it. Try this: the next time you are feeling impatient, slow down, and observe yourself. Shift your attention to your breath. Take several slow, deep breaths in and out. Feel the effect of gravity on your body, grounding you. Feel into the present moment and appreciate all that is present for you right now.

If you can do these things, I suspect you will feel less impatient.

Monkey Business

Welcome to my new website and the Year of the Monkey! The Chinese Lunar New Year was celebrated on February 8th. According to the Chinese Zodiac, 2016 is the Year of the Monkey. Monkeys are viewed as lively, playful, happy, curious, witty, and innovative. Supposedly, people born in the Year of the Monkey will display many of these characteristics. People like me, who are born in the Year of the Sheep, tend to be gentle, thoughtful, sensitive, and calm. While these words don’t describe the entirety of my personality, I think many people would use these words to describe me. Like a sheep hanging out with a monkey, I intend to remain grounded in 2016 as I innovate, play, and have lots of fun. What are your intentions this year?

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